1. Go Easy On Me - comparison kills joy
Any Adele fans out there?🎶
The other day, her song Go Easy On Me popped into my head while I was standing in the middle of my living room drinking my coffeegone cold, again.
Adele’s voice has layers of emotion that can move millions through the radio. She makes it look effortless.
And in that moment, I thought, Wow… she’s got it all together.
Followed by the gut-punch, I can’t even manage my household, let alone a successful career.
🛑 STOP RIGHT THERE! 🛑
Don't go down that ugly road thinking, "Why can't I be like her?”
Comparison is sneaky. It steals our joy, drains our energy, and whispers lies that we’re not enough. Girl, we’ve all been there: scrolling through perfectly polished lives online, watching someone else’s highlights, and then wondering why we feel like a mess.
Yes, even me.
I have to snap myself out of it with the most miraculous reminder, that I created life.
YOU BIRTHED TINY HUMANS.
Never forget that you are capable of miracles. You are capable of greatness;
maybe not all day-every day, but even God took a day off. I believe He didn’t create us to compete. We are designed to be creative and to cultivate. When He rested on the seventh day, He was showing us something:
We are not meant to live in constant striving.
Savor the Mundane.
It’s not about making life perfect. It’s about making peace with the season you’re in, while growing into the person God has called you to be.
Wanting better for yourself is beautiful! And this blog is a safe place full of tough love. If you want to level up your parenting and evolve your energy, you’re in the right place.
The simple fact is: what other people are doing is none of your dang business anyway. I tell this to my kids (and myself) all the time. Controlling other people is an exercise in insanity from the point when inspiration is no longer inspiring and it’s a sign that it might be time to take a step back. Because being too invested in other people’s lives degrades your own potential.
I once imagined a home where I could wake up and actually enjoy my morning coffee with the kids play nearby rather than dreading the sound of their footsteps. I wanted to stop worrying about whether I could ever measure up to other moms, who seemed to calm and polished. I just wanted a home where grace flows freely and where patience, empathy, and respect are practiced daily.
That’s not a fantasy. It’s a skill set. And it’s one you can build without burning yourself out.
For now, here is your first Guide line:
Give Yourself Grace💫
This is one of those enjoy the journey kind of deals. You should be excited about the destination, but when these seasons of parenting and relationships are ever-changing you need to know, you will never be fully prepared and have all the right answers. Life doesn't pause for us to catch up, so think of motherhood like a relay race. We are developing skills that were never taught to us by prior generations so that we can pass on healthy relationship skills to our kids, and they onto theirs.
The skills I want to develop and practice every day are:
Patience
Empathy
Respect
Appreciation &
Cooperation
Drop a comment to add something important to you:
What values do you you think we should pass down to the next generation?
Let’s try to focus on our own progress this week and identify the person you WANT to become so that you can take steps to become that person! Leave a comment with the skills you want to work towards or the ones you want to better understand.
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