The Results

The upper left quadrant represents a permissive parent. If your score placed you in this sector you can read more below.

The upper right quadrant represents an Alderian parent. If your score placed you in this sector you can read more below.

The lower left quadrant represents an Indifferent parent. If your score placed you in this sector you can read more below.

The lower right quadrant represents an Authoritarian parent. If your score placed you in this sector you can read more below.

The Permissive parent

Being a permissive parent means that your strengths are Empathy, Autonomy, and Connection. You value the relationship and well being of your child(ren) but you likely struggle to empower your kids to respect authority or overcome impulse control.

You fear that “laying down the law” will impact the trust you hope to foster with your kids. So, in an effort to avoid upsetting them you often let them play on your emotions and you pick up the slack instead of holding them accountable.

This parent might struggle with

  1. Lack of boundaries

  2. Over dependence on the parents

  3. Entitlement

  4. Emotional manipulation

  5. Frequent Burnout

  6. Social Challenges

The Alderian Parent

Adlerian parenting emphasizes mutual respect, collaboration, and encouragement to build a child’s independence and social responsibility. Authoritarian parents approach their kids with clear and and fair expectations.

Their strengths are in structure and kind boundaries. This mindset allows them to guide their child’s development in a way that nurtures both respect and a sense of belonging.

Struggles for this parent could be:

  1. Misjudging Readiness for Responsibility

  2. 5. Parental Overwhelm

  3. Misuse Natural Consequences

  4. Struggling to Balance Flexibility and Boundaries

  5. Overemphasis on Autonomy

  6. Misinterpreting Encouragement

The Indifferent Parent

Indifferent parents are also considered uninvolved. Often they provide a neglectful environment because they, themself, lack support. The indifference is frequently a reflection of overwhelming circumstances, personal struggles, or a lack of resources, knowledge, or support.

These parents may face challenges such as mental health issues, unresolved trauma, chronic stress, or socioeconomic difficulties, which can make it hard to meet their children’s emotional and physical needs

Their distance is not necessarily a lack of love but rather a sign that they are stretched too thin or unsure how to connect. The challenges for this parent include:

  1. Lack of Connection

  2. Unmet Needs

  3. Trust Issues

  4. Highly Susceptible to Peer Pressure

  5. Under developed skills

  6. Emotional Volitility

The Authoritarian Parent

As an Authoritarian parent you probably come from a place of deep concern for your child’s safety, success, and moral development. Your strengths are in your passion for core values, and your dedication to raising obedient, disciplined, children.

Many authoritarian parents strive to protect their child from chaos or failure. This firm approach reflects the desire to instill strong values and ensure their child becomes a responsible, capable adult.

This parent might struggle with:

  1. A strained relationship with their child(ren)

  2. Emotional Suppression

  3. Fear of Failure

  4. Increased Risk of Rebellion

  5. Stunted Problem-solving

  6. Unbalanced Autonomy and Accountability